Tag: Resilience

  • What Sticks to You Is Not Always Yours

    What Sticks to You Is Not Always Yours

    Sometimes an idea arrives after a conversation has ended.

    I was speaking with a friend who is passing through a difficult period. We discussed circumstances, responsibility, choices and the weight that certain experiences can leave behind.

    Afterwards, an image came to my mind.

    When a sword is used in battle, there may be blood on its blade.

    The sword has performed its function. But before it can be used again, the blade needs to be cleaned.

    The blood on the sword does not become the sword, nor does it become a part of it.

    In much the same way, when someone cleans a neglected place, handles garbage or enters an unpleasant environment, some of that environment may temporarily remain on the person — the smell, the dust, the dirt.

    That does not mean it belongs to them.

    It simply means they came into contact with it.

    The mistake we often make

    Human beings sometimes do something very different.

    When a difficult experience leaves something behind — guilt, disappointment, embarrassment, anger, financial loss, rejection or the consequences of a wrong decision — we begin to identify ourselves with what has attached itself to us.

    Instead of saying:

    “This happened to me.”

    we gradually begin believing:

    “This is me.”

    That is a very important difference.

    You may have made a mistake.

    You may have trusted somebody you should not have trusted.

    You may have taken a decision that produced an unexpected consequence.

    You may even have knowingly entered a difficult situation because something had to be done.

    Every action has consequences.

    Some of them will leave marks.

    But the mark is not necessarily your identity.

    The more useful question is not whether something unpleasant has attached itself to you.

    Sometimes that is unavoidable.

    The question is:

    What are you going to do with it now?

    Clean the blade.

    Wash the clothes.

    Correct what can be corrected.

    Learn what needs to be learnt.

    Accept whatever genuinely belongs to you.

    And release what does not.

    Then become available again for the next piece of life.

    We are also instruments of creation

    That thought led me somewhere else.

    Look around us.

    Schools, universities, factories, trains, ships, roads, medicines, communication systems, books, music and technology — all of them began somewhere inside a human mind.

    Someone saw something that did not yet exist.

    Someone connected a few dots differently.

    Someone acted.

    Many creators never lived long enough to see the full impact of what they initiated.

    Yet they became conduits through which something entered the world.

    Some creations transformed humanity positively. Others produced unintended consequences. A few may even have caused enormous harm.

    But the underlying phenomenon remains fascinating:

    Human beings are instruments through which ideas become reality.

    We receive.

    We interpret.

    We imagine.

    We act.

    And through those actions, the world changes.

    Perhaps that is where our Old Currency lies

    This is also one of the ways in which I have begun to understand what I call Old Currency.

    Old Currency is not something sitting somewhere outside us waiting to be discovered.

    It is the accumulated inner design we already carry — experience, instinct, perception, intelligence, memory, learning and perhaps something deeper that we do not always know how to describe.

    The difficulty is that we are trying to spend this Old Currency in a very new world.

    The circumstances have changed.

    The language has changed.

    Technology has changed.

    Relationships have changed.

    Work has changed.

    Even our understanding of success, failure, responsibility and identity keeps changing.

    The currency may still have value.

    But we need to learn how to use it differently.

    That requires us to pause occasionally and connect the dots.

    To distinguish between what happened to us and what actually belongs to us.

    To separate experience from identity.

    To recognise the residue of yesterday without allowing it to dictate tomorrow.

    And then to listen carefully enough to that inner design to understand what it may be asking us to create next.

    Clean up. Reconnect. Move again.

    Life will not always allow us to remain untouched.

    If you work, love, build, lead, trust, experiment or attempt something meaningful, you will occasionally get your hands dirty.

    That is part of participating in life.

    The objective cannot be to remain permanently untouched.

    The objective is to know how to return.

    Clean what needs cleaning.

    Repair what needs repairing.

    Learn what needs learning.

    Then reconnect with that part of you which is still capable of imagining, contributing and creating.

    What has attached itself to you does not automatically belong to you.

    And what happened yesterday does not necessarily define what you are capable of creating tomorrow.

    Sometimes we simply need to clean the blade — and become available for the next mission.

    — K. Srinivas Patnaik

    This reflection connects with ideas explored in my book Old Currency in a New World: Understanding Karma in Modern Life.

  • The Soldier and the Ammunition

    A 1-minute archive reflection

    Archive note:
    This reflection was originally written during the COVID period on my earlier Facebook page, Change Your Thoughts & Make Your Living Better – CYT. The original title was Core-On-Arm-R. It is preserved here as an archive reflection from that time, with light editing for clarity.

    Who fights the war — the soldier or the ammunition?

    Ammunition has no value unless there is a soldier to use it.

    A war may still be fought with limited ammunition, but ammunition alone cannot fight the war.

    And when ammunition is placed in the hands of a better-prepared soldier, it becomes far more effective.

    During the COVID period, this thought came to me very strongly.

    The virus was the enemy.

    The body was the soldier.

    Vaccines, medicines, masks, gloves, sanitisers, and protective equipment were the ammunition.

    So where does the real strength lie?

    It lies in the soldier.

    The body must be cared for. Immunity, fitness, rest, discipline, and alertness matter. They do not replace medical care or responsible precautions, but they support the person who has to face the situation.

    A weak soldier with strong ammunition may still struggle.

    A stronger soldier can use available protection more effectively.

    There is also one important lesson from martial arts and physical training.

    The first lesson is not always to fight.

    Often, the first lesson is to avoid unnecessary combat.

    Run.

    Take cover.

    Stay away from danger where possible.

    Engage only when necessary.

    That was true during the pandemic as well.

    Use the available protection. Follow the necessary precautions. Seek medical guidance when needed. But also respect the body that has to carry you through the battle.

    The war outside may not always be in our control.

    But preparing the soldier within remains our responsibility.